“The mission of The Onesimus Connection is to help individuals

discover their true identity as they walk in authenticity."



We exist for the purpose of helping individuals build a foundation of authenticity and true identity while finding healing and freedom from life controlling issues.


This mission is accomplished by individual and group interaction through all possible avenues of communication and technology.


We value, respect and accept individuals unconditionally while providing them a life changing journey of grace thus enabling them to experience genuine intimacy in all their relationships while equipping them to move forward in their true identity.


 "Your mistakes do not define you;

  They are meant to guide you."

What are “Life Controlling” Issues or “Addictions”?

Someone once said: “Idolatry is present when ever we trust in an object, activity, or person to supply us with our sense of value or meaning and/or to save us from what we fear most.”  This is exactly what "Life Controlling" or "Addiction" Issues are – objects, people or activities we turn to a regular basis in an attempt to find value, self-worth, purpose, or meaning in life. We turn to these things in times of fear or pain as an escape from the problems or issues we are facing. These addictions become our "Life" and we find that we cannot exist without them being at the center of our lives. We begin a Love-Hate relationship with this object of our addiction which overshadows everything and everyone else in our life.

There are numerous things we can become addicted to which become very destructive. Alcohol, Drugs, Food, Sex, Gambling, Spending, Anger, Power & Control are just a few of the things we can become addicted to. This program is designed to address addictive behavior in general which applies to all areas or addiction.

The thing many people don't understand about addictions - especially sexual addiction - is that it is NOT about "sex" (The Behavior), but deeper internal issues. It has its roots in self worth, identity, and intimacy. Some have referred to Sexual Addiction as an "Intimacy Disorder" because it is linked with the natural desire for intimacy and yet the the fear and/or misunderstanding of "True Intimacy".  Like everything else in our lives, it is not about "Behavior" (Tip of the Iceberg) but about the deeper issues in our "Core Beliefs" and past "Life Experiences."  THIS is where true healing takes place resulting in freedom from the addiction.  

In addition to covering the basic recovery principles upon which the twelve step program is based, we also explore the areas of self-esteem, anger management, forgiveness, and relapse prevention techniques.

Topics Covered: Understanding the Addiction Process - Honesty and Accountability - Acknowledging our Powerlessness - Developing an On-going Trust in God - The Addiction Cycle - Managing PAW (Post Acute Withdrawal) Symptoms - Understanding and Handling our “Stuck
Points” – Accountability – Recovery Programs - Making the 12 Steps an on-going Process in Your Life - Making Life Style Changes - Multiple Addictions and Compulsive Behavioural Issues - Justification and Denial Issues - Anger Management Issues - Triggers and Warning Sign Management
- Learning Coping Skills - Managing Stress - Disputing Myths and Faulty Beliefs - Living a Life of Acceptance - Exploring
Relationship Issues - Forgiveness and Inner Healing - Developing and Maintaining a Healthy Self-Esteem - Setting Goals and Choosing to be Positive - Making Right Choices - Maintaining a healthy Bio-Psycho-Social Life Style.


"I have observed Mr. Nichols working with our clients both in group and individual settings.  He has always conducted himself in a professional manner and I believe he would be a great asset for any church or program." - Major Forrest McIntyre Administrator:  The Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center.